I find in life that the worst days are the ones we spend thinking about ourselves the whole time. Woe is me. I don’t have what I want. I need this. I need that. Why did they do that to me? How come I don’t get ______? That’s mine!
We spend all day thinking about ourselves.
About what we want. What we don’t have. What we need. What we wish we had, that someone else already has.
It’s this selfish, narcissistic, inward thinking that leads to misery and despair.
Those are the worst days, when we spend the whole time obsessing about who we are not.
I want to challenge you to spend a whole day thinking about yourself. Meditate on yourself. Dream about yourself. Covet. Envy. Look for things you don’t have.
Spend the whole day, thinking about yourself.
And as you go to bed tonight, capture in a journal a few notes: How do I feel? What am I excited about? What am I thinking about? Where’s my mood? Where’s my joy? Where’s my peace?
Then the next day…
I want you to spend the next day thinking about other people. Who can I bless? Who can I serve? Who can I give to? Who can I help? What is someone else missing, that I have, that I could give to them? How can I use my stuff, my time, my leadership, my efforts, to bless someone else? Spend the day—instead of looking inward—looking outward.
And then, as you go to bed that night: journal, think, write, record what you saw, how you’re feeling, where your joy is. Do it. Spend two days. Be completely selfish on Day 1, and try to be a servant on Day 2, and record the differences.
Now, I know the reality is that most days are a muddled mess of conflicted selfish and servant desires. But I also know those minutes, hours and days spent on a mission to serve are never wasted. They will give you far more joy than those spent consumed with yourself. At least it’s true for me.