Why People Disconnect with Their Leaders

July 8, 2014

Disconnected.

You know that feeling?

Something is off. You aren’t in sync with your boss. Your team seems fragmented. Time and energy feels wasted. There might be a major defining moment that is at fault or it could be incremental deterioration. Regardless of the source, it’s not ideal and a sustained disconnect undermines you, your company and any healthy forward progress.

What’s the culprit? And more importantly, how do you fix it? Life would be easy if the blame game was black and white. In my experience it’s never been that easy though. Broken relationships and fragmented teams are often the result of many factors. It’s always the leaders responsibility to deal with but not always their fault.

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Diagnosing the broken connection

The team doesn’t know the vision. When your team doesn’t understand or know their personal connection to the vision you create a disconnect. Instead of rallying behind THE vision they start to create their own to fill in the gaps. Is this your story? If so, don’t settle. Fight (respectfully) for a clear vision and if you’re the leader, listen, so that you can provide the clarity your team needs.

Everyone is in it for themselves. This could be the leader that overlooks the needs of the team or it could be a rogue team member that doesn’t lift a finger beyond their job description to help out.

Reality is ignored. The very nature of a vision is that it lives in the future. It’s something to be achieved and navigated towards that is different then the present reality. BUT…it doesn’t mean we get to ignore the present reality. Leaders need to be honest about the present situation or they’ll loose their team. Painting a false sense of utopian reality doesn’t help anyone. We need to be honest about the present struggles as we paint a picture of a better future.

Company values are all talk. Knowing and living your company values should be a no-brainer. You have them for a reason, right? However, if your company values are nothing more than words on a paper or platitudes dished out in a meeting then you’ve got a case of hypocrisy. Your true values are what you do day in and day out. When they’re aligned, watch out world. When they’re not, a credibility storm is brewing.

My way or the highway. Humility might be the most powerful way to unite a team. When established leaders are out of touch or new leaders are arrogant you build a culture of isolated superheroes. A team where everyone wants to lead as long as it is their idea, isn’t really a team.

Feeling disconnected is an awful spot for everyone. No one wins. How can you fight for clarity and lead your team to be more connected?