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Own It and Move On

July 11, 2014

Are you a dweller? You make a mistake and it haunts you. Or, someone else made a mistake and you obsess over what they should have done differently. You think of everything you never had the courage to act on or actually voice. Why, why, why? What if? Only if I had…


My son Orin just started playing basketball this year; he’s got some good talent but is still learning the basics. I noticed him being overly hard on himself and it occurred to me he just couldn’t get past his mistakes…or at the minimum they would bother him for too many plays. I gave him two little phrases: “Own it and move on.” and “My bad.”  “My bad.”, is a humble recognition that he screwed up; a powerful admission that can put his mind and his teammates’ minds at ease. They don’t need to fear he didn’t see where he fell short, and he doesn’t need to make an excuse for it.  I’ve seen and lived the opposite and know that as soon as you start to dwell, you take yourself out of the moment and the mistakes compound. You forget to live (or play hard) because you’re afraid.  At least I have.

Navel gazing isn’t the answer 

Our decisions have repercussions and “owning” it may take time to repair certain relational, financial or emotional damage.   But navel gazing and working around/ignoring our mistakes takes time too.  The difference is that one is time spent moving forward and experiencing personal growth, and the other leaves you stuck in defeat and discouragement.  

Own it and move on. Whether it be with your spouse, business partner, kids or your teammates. Is there something you’re dwelling on today? It might be time to humble yourself, apologize if necessary, and get back in the game.


Regardless of status or position in life, most people want more. More money, more recognition, more respect, more accomplishments, more success. Success is a universal pursuit. I’ve never met anyone who isn’t pursuing it. Is that a bad thing? I don’t think so but I do think it is important to define and personalize. If you don’t, then your life will be spent comparing yourself to others. That is a bad thing because it robs you of the joy of living your life freely.  

What is success?

At the end of the day, defining success is personal and subjective. But I think it’s fair to say that when someone feels successful, they have accomplished something positive, achieved a goal. Personally, finishing a 1/2 marathon in under two hours was a success for me; I set a goal and achieved it. For someone else, my time would be a total failure. Again, success can be relative, but the recipe for realizing whatever success you are after is basically the same–faithfulness, diligence, and perseverance in your relationships, dreams and opportunities.

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What is it you’re after and why is it important? Have you defined it and are you sacrificing other important areas of your life to achieve it? If you haven’t defined it then you don’t know exactly what you’re after. You certainly won’t know when you achieve it. Spending time to think and dream about your future is an important discipline. Paint a picture of your future and then really examine your motives. What it is going to take to get there and what will be sacrificed along the way? Then ask yourself if it’s worth it. If success in one arena of life leads to failure in another, are you really successful? If you make a million dollars but your family falls apart, is it worth it?

Categories of success

I’m not a fan of compartmentalizing your life into categories but for the sake of defining success, it’s helpful. Take some time and think through your Friendships, Career, Family, Finances, Spiritual Life, Hobbies, Education and any other important pursuits. What does success look like in each area? Where do you want to be 1, 3, 5, 10 years from now? As your dreams begin to formulate on paper, it will inform what’s needed to pursue them faithfully. You’ll be forced to honestly wrestle with your priorities and determine what is most important to the life you want to build and your future success. Blessings. 

Stay tuned for a follow up post: How To Build On Your Success


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Last week, my two daughters – 10 and 7 years old – gave me a 15-page PowerPoint presentation about how they want to upgrade their room, including a budget.

Part of their plan was to set up a lemonade stand to raise some of the money, so that we did. They named themselves the “Sweet and Sour Sisters”.


To no one’s surprise, they sold out in an hour.

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On Monday I spoke at my Grandpa Jerry’s funeral and on Tuesday I turned 35. It’s been an impactful few days, with a unique mix of memories from the past and hopes for the future. I was born in the small town of Troy, Montana, with a total population under 1,000. My Grandparents owned a fancy (Montana fancy, that is) restaurant and bar in the neighboring big city of Libby, Montana. Visiting Grandma and Grandpa carried with it many fond memories: sitting on Grandma’s lap playing Keno, drinking Shirley Temples, and petting their many horses. As we discussed these memories over the last few days with friends and family, I kept thinking of the amazing potential of one single life to influence so many.

The impact of a single life.

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I enjoy learning and writing about leadership—mobilizing people and resources to seize opportunities and solve problems. Nothing makes me more giddy than seeing progress and growth. I love it when things get done. 

In leadership conversations, everyone talks about the importance of delegation in order to get more accomplished. Delegation, at it’s finest, empowers an individual or team to do more than they could ever do alone. Delegation, at it’s worst, is passing the buck on a to-do list you just don’t care about, but probably should

Delegation is a matter of healthy growth, and sometimes survival. However, there are two things that you should never delegate. They are important, but not always urgent… until it’s too late.

There is a war on our time and priorities.

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A Tale of Two Kings

March 12, 2013

This post was adapted from my book Authority: The Leader’s Call to Serve. You can get a copy free on Amazon for a limited time.

In the later years of King Solomon’s reign, he made conditions for the Israelites extremely harsh. The people referred to his reign as a heavy yoke. In the period after Solomon’s death, the void in leadership resulted in a division between the people of Israel. In hopes of bettering their working conditions, the people wanted to have a man named Jeroboam made king instead of Solomon’s son,   Rehoboam. They were so fed up with Solomon’s rule, Rehoboam had to flee to the city of Shechem, afraid for his life.

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My oldest son Caleb is turning 12 in a few weeks. That means we’re two-thirds of the way to him finishing high school and moving on to what’s next. Our youngest daughter, Haley, is turning 7 a few weeks after that. Kara and Orin find themselves in the middle at the ages of 8 and 10. What in the world? Where has the time gone? Crystal and I often talk about how we want to bottle up today’s memories and not let the days slip by without some intentionality. 

You’re busy, I’m busy, we’re all busy! I get it and it’s easy to use that as an excuse to why we’re not making great memories with our family. I know, because I’ve done it.

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What Will You Leave Behind?

January 7, 2013

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“Blessed are those servants whom the master finds awake when he comes.” (Luke 12:37)

You will die. What will you leave behind in your absence?

Have you ever asked yourself that question? Or maybe you’ve dismissed it because you feel too young (“I don’t need to worry about that right now”) or too old (“It’s too late”). Both excuses are untrue. As long as you still have life, you need to use it. Don’t delay it, and don’t diminish it, or else you’ll waste it.

Where do you want to go? What are you pursuing? What drives you? What bugs you? What do you want to see changed—in your life, in your city, in the world?

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Just the Beginning

January 1, 2013

Life is full of opportunity. Leadership is about taking those opportunities. Legacy is what you will leave behind when you do.

Why am I writing?

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Meet My Family

December 31, 2012

They say a picture is worth a million words…or something like that.  Here’s my million words:


Crystal – my lovely wife of 13 years, by far the better half.

Caleb – our oldest son of 11 years, I love his concern for the new kid.

Kara – our oldest daughter of 10 years, her creativity inspires me.

Orin – our youngest son of 8 years, willing to talk with anyone.

Haley – our youngest daughter of 6 years, busy making us all laugh.